The best thing about reflecting on the past is learning what not to take into your future. Love like anything else in life, is learned. If our parents argued and yelled, we learned that love is dramatic and high emotion. If our parents supported each other and spoke highly of each other to their children, and to one another, we learned that love is safe and supportive. In order to understand our own hangups, with love and relationships, we must take a moment to reflect on what we learned from our own family.
There is a quote many people have been passing around on the Internet that states “Those who cannot remember the past, are condemned to repeat it.” Remember the past, learn from it and let it go. Learning is essential, we cannot simply say, “I will never be like my mom.” In order to avoid making the same mistakes as your own mother or father, you have to understand why they made their mistakes in the first place. What was her family life like? How did her parents treat each other? Did she feel loved and supported? “I will never”. . . is a great way to ensure that you will someday. It is a blanket statement with very little understanding and a lot of negative emotion. There is a universal truth that says “where attention goes energy flows.”
Letting go is the last piece of the past puzzle. We do not want to carry past woes into our future. The act of letting go is a non-negotiable piece of building a bright future.
Soren Kierkegaard said, “Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forward.” I encourage you to seek understanding, learn without judging, forgive and let go. Your future can be one of hope, new beginnings, and opportunities to plant love for the next generation.
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